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    #3: What were the top 10 lessons you learned?

    Link: 18 questions for an incredible review of your 2018 In these last weeks of December, I’ll be answering 18 questions for an incredible review of your 2018 that I wrote in my previous post. I hope this series inspires you to look at your life, career, family and relationship, and to reflect and plan for an awesome 2019. Let’s go. Question 3: What were the top 10 lessons you learned? Speak up for myself. If I didn’t learn to do it, I’d be somebody’s puppet, without a voice and opinion in things. You’re either on the table or on the menu. I highly recommend the book Lean In by Sheryl Sandberg. Separate reality…

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    #2: What were your top 10 achievements?

    Link: 18 questions for an incredible review of your 2018 In these last weeks of December, I’ll be answering 18 questions for an incredible review of your 2018 that I wrote in my previous post. I hope that this inspires you to look at your life, career, family and relationship, and to reflect and plan for an awesome 2019. Let’s go. Question 2: What were your top 10 achievements? Work hard in my research project and other side hustles. Hard work pays off. Know my style and taste in fashion, makeup, perfume, designs etc. This saves me a lot of money! Improve my cooking skills. There’s something therapeutic and calming about cooking…

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    #1: What were your top 10 goals for 2018?

    Link: 18 questions for an incredible review of your 2018 For the next 18 days, I’ll answer 18 questions for an incredible review of your 2018 that I wrote in my previous post. I hope that this inspires you to look at your life, career, family and relationship, and to reflect and plan for an awesome 2019. Let’s go. Question 1: What were your top 10 goals for 2018? 1.Better planning Be more organised. Planning is extremely important, or else you’ll waste time heading nowhere. I think I did better than I expected. After experimenting with different planning methods, like using the Google Calendar, drawing timeline in Excel and using the bullet…

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    18 questions for an incredible review of your 2018

    The quality of your life is defined by the questions you ask yourself.  This morning I heard this podcast by Freda Liu and Jeevan Sahadevan on BFM 89.9. I like the depth and coverage of the questions so I decided to spend some time transcribing the audio into text. Here are 18 questions to guide your in reviewing your year and preparing for the next year. Grab a pen and a piece of paper. What were your top 10 goals for 2018? What were your top 10 achievements? What were the top 10 lessons you learned? What was the biggest risk you took in 2018? What was the smartest decision you…

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    Fish don’t know they’re in water

    All these years of burning the midnight oil, leading a sedentary lifestyle and enormous stress had finally taken a toll on my body. My skin allergy never recovers and my hormones are crazy. So I went to consult a famous traditional Chinese medicine doctor in Petaling Street. He checked my pulse and shook his head. He asked me, “What do you do besides looking at the computer?” “I… Erm… work.” He asked again, “So what can you do besides looking at the computer?” Wait, what? What does he even mean? I mean, I can cook…? I can drive… But I can’t sew or paint. Neither do I have any medical knowledge…

  • Career,  Living

    It’s a long game

    A friend just passed her PhD viva and another friend just earned his MBA. We gathered to celebrate their incredible milestones. One of our friends said, “Gosh, I could never do that. You guys are lucky to be born smart!” They’re lucky, or smart? Really? Yes they are smart, but the real secret of their success is stamina. As their friends, I got to witness how much time and effort they committed into their goals. Getting a PhD is a lonely journey filled with countless failures and rejections. She’s constantly solving problems and overcoming hurdles. The guy who got MBA is a full-time engineer who battled with his health issues…

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    Be the support you wish to have

    My mum is in her mid-fifties but she looks much younger. I attribute her anti-aging superpower to genetics and diet, but lately I realize that she might have another superpower – my dad. In the past 30 years, my dad has been constantly telling my mum that she’s the prettiest woman in the world. My dad has always been generous about compliments and support. Before we do something scary, like giving a speech, he’d say, “I know you can do it, you’re my smart daughter.” If we win, he’d say, “Of course you’d win, you have my genes.” If we perform poorly, he’d say, “It’s okay, I know you will…

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    A letter to my 19-year-old self

    Hi 19-year-old Eve in 2008, I’m your 29-year-old self. I guess you’ll be surprised that I didn’t become who you want me to be. You’ve always aspired to be a glamorous, fashionable, and confident woman. At this point you’re still devastated over the breakup with your ex-boyfriend. He’s cool and fun, but he isn’t the one. Next year you will date another boy, who’s cool and fun too. Deep in your heart, you know he also isn’t the one. Your friends who question your choice of boyfriends are right. My dear, you are so young, you don’t know what you want yet. A few years later, you’ll slowly learn what…

  • Living,  Travel

    Put in the work

    Recently our Prime Minister Tun Mahathir caused an uproar because he feared that the Malays and Bumis couldn’t compete with 3 million Chinese from China that were expected to come to Malaysia. He said, “If we bring in another three million people from China, what will happen to us? They are strong, able, knowledgeable in business; they come not as labourers but as successful entrepreneurs…. Can we compete with them?” Naturally the Malaysians aren’t happy with his statement. “Are you saying that we aren’t capable? Are you saying we will lose our competitive edge?!” Honestly, I agree with him. We can’t compete. My one-month stay in China has completely opened…

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    You should spend some time alone (without your phone)

    In April I lived in Guangzhou, China for a month. I seldom travel solo, so this was exciting. Guangzhou is a mega city with 14.5 million people (half of Malaysia’s population). Taking their metro was an unforgettable experience. On my first ride I was courteous and naive. I queued like a normal good citizen would, but once the train arrived at the platform, everyone was pushing forward aggressively to squeeze into the already crowded coach. I waited for two more trains before I could really board the train. Gosh. To me, Guangzhou is way more crowded than Singapore and Beijing. The boundary between two human beings was so small that I…